Please let me help you

Hebrews 4:16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need

I miss the man in this photo, and it wasn’t taken that long ago. This man is happy, smiles a lot, and is pleasant. The man I now have seems apprehensive, walks very slowly, shuffles as he walks and almost never engages with anyone, even me.

Mike is refusing help on all levels. He has difficulties getting his shoes on, but by golly he’s going to do it himself, and 20 minutes later he’s still struggles. He is unable to zip his coat closed, so he goes out into the cold wind, trying to hold the front together to stay warm, he says he doesn’t want to appear to be incompetent! He has a ton of medications for a variety of injuries from the fire department, and he sorts them into baggies for day meds, and night meds. Today, I was in the family room and he had pills scattered onto the floor, baggies of pills left on the floor, and empty bags everywhere. When I offered to help he got upset and said, “I can do it!” The trouble is – he’s getting them mixed up!

I asked him why is he refusing help all the time, and again he said, “I don’t want to appear to be incompetent.”
“Mike, I am here to help you! I don’t consider you incompetent, but you get things mixed up and you need me! Please let me help.” He refuses again. So I head to bed, and 5 minutes later he’s in the room looking for one of the OTC (over the counter) meds he takes. I told him he took it into the family room with the rest of his stuff. “No, I did not! You didn’t give it to me.” Back and forth we went and I said let’s go look – we did, and there it was. He looks like he’s about to cry, but he just mumbles an apology and tells me he will finish sorting the meds out later. We are now on day 3 of trying to do 1 month of packets. He used to do this in about 30 minutes. So tomorrow, if he’s not finished, I am going to insist I take over this project for him.

The rest of the day went well, we went to the Buck Knife Factory sale, and spent about an hour there; then we went to Cabela’s in Post Falls, and spent about 30 minutes there. Mike wanted to go to lunch, and we went to Elmer’s on Appleway and we had fish and chips. Then home. Mike was excited to look over our purchases from the Buck Knife store, and I was busy with the processing of orange extract. I need to strain what is finished now, and add some more orange rind into the jar. That will happen in a couple of days.

It’s been a great day. Have a good evening.

Published by motherpooh

I am a Mom and a Grandma. I like photography, genealogy, scrapbooking, canning, and gardening

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