Why can’t he be kind and gentle?

Psalm 40:3 He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear the Lord and put their trust in him.

Taken 8 July 2017

Today my housekeeper came and I love it. My house looks and smells so fresh! She’s now offered to do dishes, if I need. What a blessing. I don’t need that at this time, but it’s nice to know for future.

After the housekeeper left, Mike informed me there is no way he will accept a ‘baby sitter’ for himself. (in reference to the Comfort Keepers from yesterday!) He was very belligerent and very unkind. He has become mean spirited and nasty over the last week. He told me if I got someone to come in, he would move out! I said, ‘Okay, where will you go?’ He didn’t know, but would figure it out. He began to look for the jeep keys again. He dumped out boxes of toothpicks looking for them! When all the searching failed, he decided he would go to the dealer and order a new key. They cost $400.00. I told him fine, he could do that if he wanted!

After a couple of hours of him being a decidedly nasty person, he took a nap. When he woke up he couldn’t remember if he’d taken his morning meds and I assured him he had; then he started asking for the evening meds. It was only 3 pm and I told him it wasn’t time, but I would give them to him before he went to bed. At 4 we walked to the mailbox and back to the house. He asked for meds again, and I again told him it wasn’t time and he laid down on the sofa and went to sleep.

About 6:30 Mike woke up and went to the family room to watch tv, and I gave him his meds at 7:00. Before 8 he was in bed for the night.

I spent much of today researching long term care facilities and getting prices! OMGosh, this stuff is very expensive!! But I did find a place for $3500.00 a month (least expensive of all of them!) that includes utilities, housekeeping, meals, laundry, and transportation to appointments and to various stores for general shopping.

I don’t think his behavior is going to get better anytime soon, so on Monday I will have to contact the doctor’s office to see what the next move is. Does his medicine change? Do we honestly consider putting him into a home? I was hoping he would be a kind and gentle person while we’re dealing with this dementia, but that’s not what’s happening. And today I was afraid of him. That makes me sad.

Published by motherpooh

I am a Mom and a Grandma. I like photography, genealogy, scrapbooking, canning, and gardening

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