Today was easier than some

Psalm 27:1 The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

From my garden

Mike only woke me 3x last night; I got a fairly decent amount of sleep. I was up, for the day, at 7 and downstairs by 7:15. Mike was getting dressed, he had a shirt on. I told him he could sleep for 2 more hours and he said, “but you called me!” I assured him I hadn’t, and I was able to convince him to go back to bed. He climbed in without taking off the shirt.

I sat for an hour enjoying the quiet and a hot cup of tea. Then I put clothes into the dryer, unloaded the dishwasher, and printed some documents. At 9:30 I woke him and said it was time to get up. He needed help with his shoes and socks, and we were out the door by 10.

We went to the chiropractor and then to Elmer’s. Mike had an omelette with avocado, sour cream, grated cheese, and salsa; I had ham and eggs.

Once we got home, Mike immediately went to sleep, and I went out to the garden. I trimmed the tomato plants, cutting off all branches that didn’t have fruit. Then I did a quick harvest and went back into the house. I really don’t like leaving Mike alone for any length of time, and I’m never sure how long he’ll sleep.

Around 5:30 he wanted to go to bed and I told him he needed to stay up for 2 more hours, he didn’t care for that, but said he’d watch some tv. He fell asleep on the lounge chair.

At 7 I woke him, gave him his evening meds, and helped him into bed. 15 minutes later he was up to get a drink, back to bed; then he was up to go to the bathroom, back to bed; then he wanted to find his eye drops, back to bed; finally he wanted his glasses, I showed him they were on his night stand, and so far he’s stayed in bed – it’s now 9:15.

I have finished preparing for tomorrow’s errands, and I have my clothes laid out. It’s time to close down for tonight.

Tired

Romans 8:31 What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?

Flowers are beginning to show signs of the end of summer

It’s been a “tired” day. And I have been working to stay awake. Mike was up and down several times last night, and that means I was awake also. Mainly to make sure he was okay and didn’t need anything.

About 7:30 I was having my 1st cup of tea for the day, and Mike got up. I told him he could go back to bed for 3 more hours, he said okay, went into his room, and closed the door.

While he went back to bed, I managed to get some laundry going, empty and refill the dishwasher, and get some documents printed.

After we got home, Mike told me he was very tired, Nd he sat in his chair to watch TV and fell asleep. By 5:30 he didn’t want dinner, he just wanted to go to bed. I convinced him to stay up until 7:30. (Maybe he’ll not wander the house tonight)

Mike didn’t need help getting ready for bed this evening, and he didn’t need help with his lights, or closing his door. So here’s hoping, and praying, he stays asleep all night.

I am also ready to sleep, it’s been a long day, because it was a long night.

An Emotional Day

EEphesians2:8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through face and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God

A plethora of birdhouses

Today was emotional. Mysister, Lisa, left at 8 am to head back home. I loved having her here with me. I loved our visits and memories. I will deeply miss her.

After she left this morning I had, maybe 45 minutes before Mike got up. He needed help getting his shoes on, and he wanted oatmeal for breakfast. After that was done, I had to help him find the tv remote, his glasses, he needed help with the microwave, where are the earphones for the TV? He needs an extra blanket, but it’s to hot, turn on a fan!

Then he accused me of hiding something, or someone, in the basement. And the door is locked so he won’t find out! (sigh) He wouldn’t believe me when I told him it was locked to keep him from falling down the stairs. I got the key and took him downstairs and he checked out each room and finally agreed there was nothing, and noone, hiding.

He decided to grab his scale to take back up with him and he wanted another blanket. Whatever!

Once we got upstairs he decided it was bedtime. He needed help getting his socks, and his jeans, off. Finally he was ready to climb into bed. I covered him, kissed his forehead, turned out the lights and closed his door.

Now I am ready to say goodnight.

A much needed break

Hebrews 1:14 Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?

Me and Mike, out for pizza

Today was a really good day for me. From 10:30 am until close to 3 pm I got to go out and about with my sister! We had a grand time. We went to Bayview to see the float houses

Float Houses

We were in Sandpoint and went to Graffiti Alley

At Graffiti Alley

We ate lunch at Spuds, and ended up driving back to Coeur d’Alene and we walked up Sherman on the North and down Sherman on the South.

Lisa and I talked, and talked, and talked. I was so thrilled to have her with me. And I am sad she has to leave tomorrow.

Robert kept Mike for the day, they stayed in, didn’t go anywhere and after Lisa and I got home, we picked up Mike, and headed for pizza. Robert and Alycia also joined us with Alycia’s kids. The pizza was great and Mike says he’s done going out to eat. We’ll see. Sometimes he forgets these pronouncements he makes.

This break was much needed and much appreciated.

Everyone else is now in their respective rooms, and, most likely, asleep. I’m next. 🙂

Sundowners?

Romans12:10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.

At Fernan Lake

Lisa and I talked quietly for a couple of hours, until Mike got up. While I fixed his breakfast, Lisa took a shower, then Mike needed help getting his shoes on.

The 3 of us went to the Bennett House and I signed Mike in, then Lisa and I took off for a while. I took her to the Garnet Cafe, then we drove to Worley, and to Mica Bay on the way back to Coeur d’Alene. We got Mike and then I took Lisa to Fernan Lake and to Lake Coeur d’Alene.

After we got home, Mike got really agitated about a flashlight not working, and he wanted me to go to the store to get batteries RIGHT NOW!! I told him no, he didn’t like that at all. I told him I would be happy to get batteries tomorrow and he wasn’t happy with that answer either. (sigh)

He went to bed, and 45 minutes later he was up again to tell me how upset he was with a door on the stairs that lead to the basement. I told him I couldn’t have him on the stairs anymore because I had to call Robert when Mike had problems. Mike asked why was the door locked and I told him so he wouldn’t try using the stairs. “I want to speak with the doctor! Locking me up isn’t right. ” I told him no one has locked him up and he can go out any door! He grumbled but went back to bed. Now, at 10:30, he’s been up 3x wanders around the house and goes back to bed. IF I ask him what he needs, he then says he has to go to the bathroom.

I find there are days it’s easy to care for him, physically and emotionally, and there are days when it’s exhausting and tearful all day long. For the most part, today was an easy day.

I am hoping to get a good nights sleep this evening so I need to close

An Easy Day

1 Corinthians 11:12 For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.

Mike and Robert

I can honestly say, today was an easy day! I was up at 5:30 and got the basement bedroom ready for my sister, who was arriving today. I was so happy and excited to know in a few short hours I would be seeing her again!

After preparing the room, I went back to the main floor, fixed a cup of tea and sat quiet for about an hour. Then at 9:30 Mike got himself up, and needed help getting dressed. He was picked up at 10:30 to go to lunch with the guys, and I went to lunch with 2 of the wives. It was so nice.

I was back home, and an hour later we had to leave for an appointment with the chiropractor. Mike didn’t want to go anywhere else, so straight back home again. And then I waited for my sister.

When Lisa finally got here, the hugs were long and sweet. Then I fixed us each a cup of tea and we talked, and talked, and talked! 3 hours of nonstop talking!

Mike decided to go to bed at 7:30 and Jenny helped him, then she and Lisa began visiting more. At 9:30, Jenny needed to call it a day and head for her room and some sleep – because tomorrow she and Lisa will be talking! ❤

Now it’s time to shut down for the evening

A Good Day

Isaiah 52:7 How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaimed peace, who bring good tidings, who proclaim salvation, who say to Zion, ‘your God reigns!’

Pictures made from pebbles

It was a good day. Last night I got the living room rearranged, and after taking Mike to the Bennett House, today, I got home and did the kitchen, while Robert took some extra stuff to the shop, and he ran the vacuum for me.

Robert then made me an expresso! With my own machine. I hadn’t figured out how to use it properly, and he showed me how! 🙂

When it was time to get Mike, Robert did that while I changed my clothes, fixed my hair and put on some makeup. Our court appointed interviewer, Pam, would be here for sure, but I didn’t know if Mike’s court appointed attorney, Corey, would make it. I wanted everything to be just right. It turns out, Corey decided he would meet Mike in October, just a couple of weeks before our court hearing. That’s fine, I still have everything pretty well in place.

Mike was having a good day, and when Pam asked him if he understood the guardianship, he said yes, and explained it to her. We were all impressed. However, as it got close to winding things up, Mike told Pam he doesn’t fully trust me! 🙄 Now, was this Mike talking? Or the dementia? That’s anyone’s guess, but my money is on the dementia. Then Mike started talking about totally unrelated things, and I knew he was tired. He got several things confused, forgot his thoughts in the middle of a discussion, and began to garble his words. Pam had worked in social services for a while, and she knew it was time to say goodbye.

It was nice to have ‘the old Mike back’ , even for a short while. He became testy after Pam left, and couldn’t get settled. He went to bed at least 2x and back up again. It looks like the 3rd time stuck, because I can hear him snoring. Finally.

Mike’s still not happy about his room being moved to the main floor, but he’s not as vocal today as day 1 and 2. Hopefully, by the weekend, he’ll be fully settled and accepting.

I am thankful for Robert’s help and patience with Mike, and around the house. He’s been a big blessing. I know I get frustrated, and gripe, but I think that’s more tired than anything else.

At this point I will say good-night

A wheelchair helped

Jeremiah 29:13 You will seek me and find me, when you search for me with all your heart.

A garden decoration

Is started out OK today. Mike wanted fried eggs for breakfast, so I fixed it for him, and then he took a very long nap. He slept from 10:30 until 2:30. When he woke up coma he decided he wanted some new pillows for his new pillows for his bed So we went to Walmart. Mike held my hand from the car through the parking lot to the store, and once inside I got a wheelchair and I didn’t have to do a lot of convincing to get him to sit in it instead of trying to walk. If shopping was much, much easier with Mike sitting in the wheelchair. When we left the store, he also held my hand back through the parking lot again until we reached the vehicle and we got in and went to our next stop which was Kohl’s.

We went to Kohl’s to find out if they had any flannel sheets, we used a wheelchair, and I ended up getting him some fleece sheets, that’s what they had. He held my hand walking through the parking lot both ways.

From there we went to Best Buy, again he held my hands through the parking lot and youth were the parking lot and to the store and we used a wheelchair. We made 2 full loops through the store and then we left.

On one of our walks from the store back to the vehicle, some jerk and a big pickup truck to see youth big pickup truck decided to blare his horn at us as Mike was going slowly through the crosswalk. If I had my arms for purchases, and Michael’s holding my hand, and when the horn blared it caused Mike to stumble because he was startled. I managed to be able to hold the packages without dropping anything, keeping ahold of Mike and keeping him upright and we made it back to the car in one piece, thankfully.

If after we got back home Mike was very unsettled, if settled, he took a short nap, and then he wanted to know where the stakes were. I told youth. I told him there were no stakes tonight. Youth a superior and then he was restless, yusuf Kama and he would sit on the sofa and then lay on the floor and then go to his bedroom and lay down and then go watch TV and back-and-forth and back-and-forth. He was talking to people who weren’t there, he you’re, he began calling me, comma at least 15 times in one hour Just as I would get seated he’d call me again and again, “Jenny where are you?” , “Jenny where are you?” Tonight I was more than ready for him to finally go to bed.

Now call my Mike’s been in bed about 2 and a 1/2 hours and a 1/2 hours, and hes been up at least 3 times. He needed a drink of water, his C-Pap machine wasn’t working right, (he didn’t have it plugged in), he had to go to the bathroom. The house alarms are set, and I am tired.

A hard week for Mike

John 15:13 This greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

A memory. Our grandkids a few years ago

We left the resort and headed home. Stopping at one restaurant, the wait, once seated, was at least an hour to get your food. We left. Then we stopped for coffee, and headed back to Coeur d’Alene. I got Mike to the Bennett House and he refused their lunch. 🤔 Later he told me it was to bland. I told him it was protein and he needs to be sure and eat the protein. We ended up going to Elmer’s. We both had the chicken fried steak dinner, and Mike only ate the steak.

When we got home and he sae his room had been moved he asked my why didn’t I discuss it with him 1st. I told him, “No matter what I say, suggest, or recommend, your first words are ‘No’ or ‘hell no’ This is for your safety, the doctor doesn’t want you climbing stairs as much.” (This is also for me, when he’s having difficulty on the stairs, I am unable to assist him. I just don’t have the strength.)

Then Mike saw there was a door blocking the stairs going to the family room 🙄 He was totally livid. He kept telling me how he’s now blocked from a full half of his own home. I again told him it was for his safety. He was trying to put his shoes on, and he stopped, looked at me, and asked me to help him. Of course, I did.

He asked me about his MRI and I told him Dr. Britt had called and said the dementia was progressing and getting worse. He became very quiet, took his shoes off and went to bed.

This will be a very hard week for him, overall. The next ‘announcement ‘ I have to give him will be this Wednesday, around 3. That is when he will discover the doctor has mandated him as incompetent and needing a guardian. 🥺 He will be meeting his court appointed attorney also. Heavy happenings. I am praying he will accept this without a fight, and allow this transition to be a smooth one.

In the meantime, I have some cleaning up to do from all the drywall dust, and all the furniture being moved around. I am hoping that soon my home will be settled.

Disoriented

Ephesians 5:20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

On the patio deck at lunchtime.

Mike got up about 11:30 and napped on the sofa at the Resort, where we’re staying. I think it’s interesting he seems to always pick the sofa, even if I’m not around.

Mike was disoriented when he got up, he didn’t remember where we were; I convinced him to put his shoes on so we could go to lunch, and he didn’t fight me, thankfully. We had a decent lunch, he only took 2-3 bites of a pulled pork sandwich, and he was full. I tried to get him to eat the meat without the bun, but he refused.

After we got back to our cabin, Mike took a 4 hour nap, and woke up feeling okay and wanting ice cream. I heated some of the blueberry pie, put the coffee flavored ice cream on it, and he ate it all! It didn’t have any protein, but he did eat something!

We tried to watch a movie this evening, but the internet kept buffering, so that didn’t work out. Finally at 8:30 Mike decided to go to bed. After he closed his door, I packed up some of our things to prepare for our departure tomorrow. I’d like to be out of here around 10:30, and get Mike to the Bennett House by his usual time at 11:30.

For now, I will say good night.